Maybe tell us what your use-case is?
Personally, I’ve got Graph view, Backlinks and Outgoing Links turned off. Not because I don’t think they’re cool features…I just don’t use them and I find them, honestly, a little overwhelming. I’m not writing or importing huge mounds of content all the time. I use Obsidian for a few simple to do lists, a couple of creative projects, and some records and imported web pages here and there.
For me, the coolest and most useful features of Obsidian are:
- headers and lists (and to some extent tables)
You don’t need to have multiple notes to organize your thoughts. You can organize your thoughts with these intranote Markdown features. I have “Fold headings” turned on in Settings > Options to assist with this (I think that’s on by default; not sure), as well as the core Outline plugin. And you can link to the various headers of your note from within different parts of that same note, so that you can jump around in your note by clicking/tapping if you want to. - the way Obsidian autocompletes when you do start writing a link to another note from within your note.
- the way it autocompletes in general, such as (but not limited to) when you’re using Ctrl-O to open a note
- being able to use Alt-left arrow key and Alt-right arrow key to navigate through your history of opened documents, essentially the same way you would in an internet browser, which is a pretty intuitive way to navigate.
I just looked up the definition of backlink and it’s just a link from one site to another. So really, any link in Obsidian, as long as it’s not a link to an anchor or heading in another part of your same note, is a backlink. So you don’t technically need to use the Backlinks or Outgoing Links core plugins to use backlinks. If you have one link to one other note in one of your notes, you’re backlinking. 
So, it’s up to you as to how often you want to backlink/link and why.
I’m just going to call it linking for the rest of this brief monologue…
Personally, I’ve found that linking sparingly is better than linking a lot. It helps me concentrate. But I love the ability to link notes all the same, and Obsidian’s abilities in that regard are not limited to just the links themselves, or to the Backlinks or Outgoing Links panes. That philosophy is built in to its speedy autocomplete features and back and forward navigation hotkeys as well, and it’s embracing of Markdown in general.
Just my two cents’. 
I think it would be helpful to hear what you want to accomplish or how you think Obsidian will help you better than other tools, to get a sense of what might work best for you!