# Making and maintaining notes on friends / relationships

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**Category:** Knowledge management\
**Created:** [June 3, 2024, 9:32am UTC](https://forum.obsidian.md/t/making-and-maintaining-notes-on-friends-relationships/82918 "2024-06-03T09:32:28Z")\
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**Author:** ![louis030195](https://forum.obsidian.md/user_avatar/forum.obsidian.md/louis030195/32/16928_2.png) [@louis030195](https://forum.obsidian.md/u/louis030195)\
**Post date:** [June 5, 2024, 5:06pm UTC](https://forum.obsidian.md/t/making-and-maintaining-notes-on-friends-relationships/82918/15 "2024-06-05T17:06:53Z")

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I have a folder for each person and a template to create a “map” of how I understand the person:

- what the person wants in life,
- strength,
- weaknesses,
- likes,
- dislikes,
- attachment style,
- personality type
- ikigai
- relationship menu
- communication menu
- anecdotes
- etc.

Then I create notes for each interactions with that persons, in the core note I use dataview plugin which easily list my interactions by dates descending.

I also use Excalidraw where I create circles “family”, “friend”, “loved ones”, I use colours for each circle representing a person, blue being distant relationship, and red a closed one (think of it as temperature)

I wish there was an AI plugin that auto organise things a bit. I think this kind of framework might allow you to go beyond [Dunbar’s number](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar%27s_number#:~:text=Dunbar's%20number%20is%20a%20suggested,relates%20to%20every%20other%20person)  
Ideally there would be something that [sync every interaction with a person to obsidian](https://forum.obsidian.md/t/sync-whatsapp-messages-to-obsidian/50664/3)

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