I have a folder for each person and a template to create a “map” of how I understand the person:
- what the person wants in life,
- strength,
- weaknesses,
- likes,
- dislikes,
- attachment style,
- personality type
- ikigai
- relationship menu
- communication menu
- anecdotes
- etc.
Then I create notes for each interactions with that persons, in the core note I use dataview plugin which easily list my interactions by dates descending.
I also use Excalidraw where I create circles “family”, “friend”, “loved ones”, I use colours for each circle representing a person, blue being distant relationship, and red a closed one (think of it as temperature)
I wish there was an AI plugin that auto organise things a bit. I think this kind of framework might allow you to go beyond Dunbar’s number
Ideally there would be something that sync every interaction with a person to obsidian